Why are our girls promiscuous? Is this a behavior that they’ve chosen or was this risky behavior thrust on them through unfortunate circumstances?
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, 36.9 percent of 14-year-olds have had sex - more than one out of three.
Other studies show that one out of every three girls has had sex by age 16, and two of three boys have had sex by age 18.
How and why did their risky sexual start?
Do they have parents involved in their lives? Our their fathers involved……because as we all know fathers are the first relationship a girl has with the opposite sex; that relationship or lack thereof usually determines what type of man a girl will choose. Have they been molested or raped in their young lives then went on to suffer from depression or anxiety; If so did they also turn to alcohol and drug use to dull the pain?
The above behaviors are reminiscent of a hurt girl acting out looking for attention in all the wrong places.
I often hear people bashing these young girls because of their behavior but I wonder have they also considered what has happen to these girls to lead them down this road of promiscuity. I find that we judge way too often as if this couldn’t have happen to us. And if we do a little retrospective thinking we would find that we have had some of the same issues that these girls are having but through the grace of God we were able to take a different path.
I have found through talking with other women that we all have suffered some unfortunate event in our lives that has led to some risky behavior in our past. Some rape, some molestation, peer pressure and even seeking attention due to we weren’t getting it at home………whether that be because our parents were too busy for us or not having a male figure in the home to show us how we’re supposed to be treated by the opposite sex. Whatever the case, we all have been there.
Instead of judging our teens we need to reassure them that they are not alone and there is a better way to cope with whatever issue that they’re going through that is leading them down this destructive and dangerous road.
Outside of one of the biggest misconception that sex equals love, other huge risks are unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and low self-esteem. While most teens are aware of the risk of pregnancy, few understand that that many STD’s today have no treatment i.e herpes and HIV. Viruses such as HPV (human papilloma virus) and HIV can be transmitted sexually and cause problems including cervical cancer and AIDS.
It’s time for us to stop judging and start giving our girls the tools and information they need to cope with life and make better decisions regarding their personal health. We cannot continue to have broken girls grow to be broken women. We have to break the cycle of family secrets which make girls afraid to speak out about rape and molestation by the hands of fathers, uncles and cousins.
We have to show our girls that we are open and willing to listen with a sincere heart and understanding when they want to come to us and talk freely about what they are going through doing these critical times of their life.
We have got to do better……..and we will.
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